i found the following definition online; 1) The state or time of being a woman. and 2) The composite of qualities thought to be appropriate to or representative of women.
so what are these qualities then? a "good" African woman has to constantly balance everything in order that her man not look bad; you can never outshine your beloved; in the office or in the bedroom!
my qualities? my balancing act entails me working hard to show utmost respect for my partner without hurting myself in the process... (could i be onto the right path towards my African womanhood?)
aaand i have other qualities too: i talk too much, laugh too loud, argue far too much, drink for no reason, smoke because i can and love kinky sex! I would rather eat out than cook; shop than DIY. My motto - if you can pay for someone to do, then why not? You are assisting the economy right? Job creation and all that.
I bought my car, pay my own rent, and travel with my own money. Du! Nitafa kuwa mke wa mtu kweli? Surely all my achievements must amount to something, au sio?
My mom once told me that you are not a woman until you marry and have children.
Hmmmm...
This should be my ultimate goal in life.. lakini it's not the cut and dry is it? what if (touch wood) i cant bear children? what if i die before meeting mr (or ms, but we will get into that later) right? will i go down in history as still being a little girl? what if i adopt - is that like faking it?? what if i marry a woman - shock horror?!?
to me womanhood is a place for mature women, passionate women, wise women, not taking shit women, women who talk too much, laugh too loud, argue far too much, drink for no reason, smoke because they can and have very kinky sex. Now I need to get the directions to that neighborhood, kwa kweli.
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